While you probably don’t know Mary Walker personally, she may be a lot like you. She’s a wife, mother, and grandmother. She’s also a sister and aunt. She lives in Florida, deals with some health issues, loves to travel, and makes sure she spends her money wisely.
She also likes to write and she wrote a review on our behalf. The part of her review that struck me the most was how she remembers her sister and Dad.
“Yesterday was my sister’s birthday and the day after tomorrow is my Dad’s birthday,” she wrote. “They are not with us anymore and although I have memories of them, you can never have enough.”
She is not alone. We’ve received a lot of comments about the importance of remembering deceased relatives.
Saving Memories Forever offers an easy approach that allows families to re-create the life of a deceased relative—through stories. We refer to this person as a Virtual Relative. Virtual Relative projects involve two general steps: recording and then managing. The recording part involves recording the stories of relatives and friends who remember the deceased. The managing part involves saving and then sharing those stories in one central spot. By using our app and website, the project is both easy and rewarding.
“The Virtual Relative project is just another example of how flexible the system is,” notes Harvey Baker, Saving Memories Forever Co-Founder. “ But it’s especially nice to know that this particular use makes it possible for families to create rich life stories of people even years after their loved one’s death.”
Nancy Sutker, who just attended her family reunion in Texas, agrees. “A lot of family members who were there at our reunion remember my brother, Ben,” she recalls. “ He died 15 years ago, but they still remember him and can recall different parts of his life. For example, I remember the long games of Monopoly that Ben and I played on rainy summer days when we were growing up. Our cousins remember Ben for his outlandish pranks as a young teenager. His wife remembers his kindness towards strangers and his laughter as he played with their kids.”
“If you think about it,” she concludes, “a person’s life is a collection of stories. It’s pretty amazing that by combining our stories, we are creating such a 3-dimensional picture of Ben’s life. ”
Nancy Sutker has never met Mary Walker. It’s unlikely that they ever will meet. Even so, there is much common ground.
It’s likely that you, too, have a relative whose life you remember. The same goes for others in your family. Maybe the time has come to act and to put together this life picture for your loved ones.The stories that you remember, after all, aren’t going to write themselves. It ‘s your job—and your honor—to communicate the life stories of someone who no longer can.
Tomorrow’s blog will feature step-by-step instructions on how to create a Virtual Relative.